I need you in my life.. without you I can’t exist… he/she needs me in their life.. without me they can’t thrive
A guy’s father is very ill. The guy describes the father as a strong pillar and anchor. The father is in the hospital dying from an illness. He tells the girl he is trying to date that he is overwhelmed and can’t visit the dad that is his anchor. He keeps the girl inundated with the father’s illness.
But he never visits. He explains to the lady how much he needs her at that hour of need. The lady is smart. She can recognize a manipulator. She thinks low of persons that use situations to pursue affection. She also realizes the play.. to make her feel needed. It works. Most people fall for it. They like to believe they are useful. Man are good at exploiting that need to feel needed.
Case 2
She is a people pleaser. She gets her high from pleasing people. She loves the attention that follows. He recognizes that need in her. He knows how to manipulate that need for approval, for applause, for validation. It works. He celebrates that vulnerability. Constantly shouting about her contributions to the life of others. It works. The drug that screams people should like me. I am helpful. Without me “they” can survive.
People will always see that weakness in you and exploit it. People are not bad. They just sometimes need to feed on your vulnerabilities as you seek adulation.
See a praise singer? Just calls you your name. A security person you will never see hails you “honourable”. A stranger comes into your inbox and manipulates you to meet their needs. You fall… they meet a need you have…. To be thought of as nice. To be celebrated…
It is life.
- Ademola Adigun
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